What are your rituals? Do you have key practices that help you stay grounded when challenges surface? Do you have a rip cord you can pull and out pops the parachute to stop the plummet and turn it into a pleasant ride? This is important…and it is never to late to have a happy landing.

When you take leaps- either out of a plane or one of faith…you are more likely to survive the experience if you have thought ahead.

Deciding before the breakdown will stop you making critical life decisions from a place of weakness/ in a moment of pressure or fear. Lets not look back at past mistakes, instead lets look forward to how you will handle the future bends in the road…because you can be sure they will come.

1) Connect to something bigger than the situation you are in.

Nothing powerful comes from reactionary thinking. Find a way to connect to stillness whenever you can. I went for an incredible walk with my retriever across a stunning, snow covered golf course this morning- it was inspiring. So, I felt fantastic when I received a call  regarding what could have been “disappointing news”. In fact- I haven’t even thought about the call until now because I am still wrapped in peace.

When you stay connected through nature, music, meditation, dance, art …you can respond and heal more effectively to change because you are not afraid of it. You are in peace, connected to your source and protected in that place from crippling fear- based thinking.

2) Gratitude is the best defence against poverty of the mind.

If you truly know you are blessed (and you are) then you can not dwell in poverty. You know you don’t live there, “this is not my life” -you will say. “I am rich, healthy, happy, capable loved and loving… I am and have always been enough.” When you know this on a deeper level, you will be able to float not flop under pressure. You will be propped up by your truth: Life is infinitely creative and abundant and I am blessed.

3) Intention and attention are where your real power resides.

Decide your intention for your day ahead and choose a mantra that you will recite through out and especially when life throws you off. ” I trust in Life” is a good one or even ” I have all I need to handle this beautifully”. The  next time you are facing something that upsets you: be aware of your body’s response and your internal dialogue and begin to breathe slowly and deeply. Then input your Intended mantra and recite it until you feel it. Next: put your attention on how you will handle this beautifully and make all your action steps from this place of power rather than panic.

4) Prepare and release.

Once you have set your attention to your new plan of action be prepared for whatever results may come your way and release all attachment to  the outcome. Really- let it go. This is one of the hardest things to do because we are habitually wishing things different and often obsess about when the delivery will come. To be blunt: it doesn’t work that way and the “why” is a long-form answer too big to take on today. For now understand that surrender is a form of trust in life and it’s infinite mysterious ways. Get used to it and get over it and you will get better at living well.

This is life… ever-changing, surprising and wonderfully synchronistic life-now just go with it.

Blessings,

Nicola