“One who has loved truly, can never lose entirely. Love is whimsical and temperamental. Its nature is ephemeral, and transitory. It comes when it pleases,and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it while it remains, but spend no time worrying about its departure. Worry will never bring it back.”
I love this quote. I remember a time when I could not find love no matter where I looked. Looking back, I now see I was already in love. My love affair was with my life in the city, my art, my friends and most importantly my freedom. Romance is a choice, it does not happen to you- it meets you where you are. It waits for you to engage in the dance in whatever form it appears in. It is up to you to notice it has entered the room.
As a gift to myself- this May I took a retreat to Bimini, a tiny island off the coast of Florida in the Bahamas. I went to play with wild dolphins, connect with like-minded seekers and to be with myself- my real self.
It was a miraculous trip, filled with revelations and contrast. I learned so much by just being aware and connected to whatever unfolded. The island has changed me in ways I could never explain to you other than by saying- GO.
Go make space to romance yourself, watch closely what happens when you do. Pay as much attention to what rattles you as what soothes and ignites you. Allow yourself to love yourself at least as much as you have loved others and watch- watch what happens with great awareness. Take in every “coincidence”, accept every sign, nudge or nod. See that life is reaching out for you and waiting for you to return it’s embrace. You are loved, deeply and more widely than you may have noticed. All of nature supports you and waits for your respect and reciprocation.
Make time to look deeper into what isn’t so you can see what is. I can not do this for you, you must claim it for yourself. I can however tell you this: Love comes to you in the most surprising ways, In a long-held gaze from a spotted dolphin, a friend who accepts you, a group that does not judge you or an island that heals you in every way you will let it.
Choose today to Love yourself with gentle devotion, so that others who love you will know how to show you their love.
I am returning to Bimini this Fall -because as a good friend said a few days ago… “It seems like you belong there” -and I do.
Thank you to my pod, the warm and loving Bimini people and my host Joe- The Dolphin Whisperer
Light and love,